1 Corinthians 13
Conflict occurs in every marriage. Bill shared two key elements in dealing with conflict:
1) We wait to long to deal with conflict and secondly, We don’t hear or understand the other person
Conflict in marriage is unavoidable because we are imperfect people whom God graciously loves in spite of our imperfections. We may need to recognize that conflict is one of those givens (natural consequences) of living and loving in a close relationship.
The Lord does not leave the Christian couple to wander unaided in such situations. Below are some questions to help you be better prepared to deal with conflict. In your relationship
1) Share a principle or insight that was helpful or, if you’re not sure you understand something, pose a question to the group for discussion.
2) A majority of couples go out of their way to avoid conflict with their partner. Couples who ignore problems in hopes they will disappear find the opposite will happen.” What happens when you avoid conflict with your partner?
3) When are you more prone to “mess up” with your spouse?
4) Read Proverbs 29:11
: “A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control.” Love is not easily angered (1 Cor. 13:5
) and love manages itself when it is angry. What are some ways to manage anger in a relationship?
5) Is there an offense or an issue between you and your spouse that you need to discuss? If so, is your attitude one of listening to understand or listening to prepare counter attack?
6) “The struggle is worth the peace that awaits your marriage on the other side of the effort and energy you are investing”. Do agree or disagree. Why”
7) 1 Peter 3:10
says whoever would “love life and see good days must keep his tongue from evil and his lips from deceitful speech.” Assuming you want to have “good days” this week, what specific action will you take to improve your ability to manage conflict?
8) Pray as a group about the key relationship principles you discussed and how you can implement them in your relationship.