1 Thessalonians 4:1-6


The topic of this weeks sermon was marriage. What makes marriage unique is that it is a life long commitment. It was created by God to be enjoyed. But for many, it is just endured. In this weeks sermon Bill talked about the 5 love languages and then 7 keys to a thriving marriage. 


Thriving marriages don’t just happen. They take work. This week we will focus on recognizing each individuals primary love language, identifying the love language of their spouse, and then discuss the 7 keys to a thriving marriage 

Discussion Questions


1) Pastor Bill suggested that there are five ways we express love: 1) Words of Affirmation 2) Quality Time 3) Physical Touch 4) Receiving Gifts 5) Acts of Service.

a) What is your Primary Love Language? 

b) What is your Spouse’s Primary Love Language? 

Are these love languages real in your experiences? How have they impacted your relationships?


2) Bill said there 7 principles to a thriving relationship: Charity, Communication, Commitment, Consideration, Compromise, Courtship and  Christ. From your experience, what would you add to this list? How did you score in each of these areas? What grade did you give yourself?


4) How often do you sit down as a couple simply to talk to one another? Do you set time aside specifically for this purpose? Why or why not?


5) Can you honestly say that you regard your spouse as a “treasure”? How do you express your feelings of mutual appreciation?


6) To what extent do you look to your spouse to meet your needs, fulfill your expectations, or bring significance and meaning to your life? Do you think this is healthy or unhealthy?

7How are you encouraging your spouse to pursue personal and spiritual self-development? Is there anything practical you can do to create more space and freedom for your mate?


8) Where is God in your marriage today? Where do you want Him to be? Is there anything you can do to help your spouse achieve his or her goals and become the person God wants him or her to be?