1 Corinthians 13
Conflict is inevitable. No relationship is immune. But when managed biblically, conflict can be a catalyst for change and an opportunity for spiritual and relational growth. Many followers of Christ have not yet developed the ability to respond to conflict in a gospel-centered and biblically way. But when Christians learn to resolve conflict they can turn it into an opportunity to strengthen relationships and make their lives a testimony to the love and power of Christ.
For the past two weeks Bill has given us biblical tools to be a peacemaker. Last week he said o resolve conflict it is important to:
1) Deal with conflict as soon as possible
2) Seek to understand rather than to be understood
This week he gave us three more tools
3) Learn to reveal your heart
4) Accept your part of the conflict before telling others their fault.
5) Determine the right time, attitude and words for the conflict
This week we’ll talk about numbers 3, 4, and 5
I). To manage conflict accept your part of the conflict before telling the other person their fault.
a). Have you ever gone to someone to address a hurt only to discover you were more in the wrong than you thought? How did you deal with that?
b). Read Matthew 7:3-5
What are some practical steps that you have found helpful in seeking to “take the log out of your own eye”? Is it difficult for you to admit wrong? Why?
II). To manage conflict learn to reveal your heart.
a). What kinds of things do you tell yourself to avoid sharing your hurt with someone else?
b). Is it difficult for you to share your emotions with another individual? What holds you back from telling another person how you’ve been hurt by them?
III). To manage conflict, determine the right time, attitude and words for the conflict.
a). What is your first response when you are confronted? Defend, Deny, or Deflect? Explain.
b). If the goal is reconciliation rather than trying to “prove a point,” or “being understood” how should this alter your approach? How do you know when it’s the right time to deal with a conflict?
c). Read James 5:16.
How could you initiate a conversation with someone who has hurt or offended you? Brainstorm some opening lines?